Our culture pushes us to constantly worry. We're convinced that without worrying, we wouldn't achieve anything in life. Subconsciously we even think that our worries protect us from bad things, that could actually happen to us. But is it really so? After reading this article on Pick The Brain, I'm not so convinced anymore… My plan is even to crush my negative thoughts and live a happier and more confident life. I'm sure I'll benefit from it, as well as my children.
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Allowing your negative thoughts to chip away at your confidence bit by bit does more harm to your self-belief than anything said by other people.
And you know what? Those negative thoughts are just lies.
So it’s time to change the narrative, and you are the only one who can.
You should never let your worries stop you from achieving your hopes and plans. Worry, or negative thinking, is only driven by fear. A fear of the future or of failure. But with the right tactics, you can banish these thoughts from ever holding you back.
The following seven steps will radically change how such thinking affects you. Once you start using your mental powers differently, you’ll be bursting with newfound confidence.
1. Recognize the true impact of your thoughts
Gather evidence about how your thinking affects your daily experience. By knowing and observing your thoughts, you will come to recognize when and how they affect the events in your life.
Take a few minutes each day to reflect on how you felt at different times. Write in a journal to record how certain thoughts made you feel and when they occurred. Then ask yourself how those feelings affected your mood and outlook. Once you see patterns, you’ll be able to anticipate them more effectively.
2. Stop lying to yourself
Negative thoughts or worrying can be shown for what they truly are. False. Worrying is a form of lying to yourself.
For example, in the run-up to a recent vacation, I started to worry about flying. In my mind, I pictured all kinds of scary possibilities. So I said to myself, “Right, let’s see what happens,” and carried on regardless.
Well, the holiday turned out to be a nice, relaxing time. Travel went without a hitch, and my negative thoughts proved to be a million miles from reality. Just fiction. Try collecting a few of your own examples like this to see just how unfounded worry can be.
3. Trust in a friend
Don’t feel you have to face this challenge by yourself. Confide in people you can trust.
A friend might also have recurring negative thoughts thereby giving you both an opportunity to discuss and support each other.
Chatting over a coffee and being open about your thoughts with a friend will not only help you take a rational look at your thoughts, but friends also offer you the advantage of being on the outside looking in. They’ll see a version of you without the influence of your mental narrative, giving you another voice to listen to.
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