9 Things that We Will Find a Lot Less Important in 20 Years

Our day-to-day life brings us plenty of little frustrations, which too often guide our decisions, blind our judgment and keep out attention from the truly important things in life.

Marc Chernoff put this amazing list of things,  we tend to expend lots of mental and physical energy on when we’re younger. But as the years go by we realize that they matter a lot less than we originally thought…

  1. The inevitable frustrations of an average day. – 99.9% of what’s stressing you out today won’t matter a month from now.  Sooner or later you will know this for certain.  So just do your best to let go of the nonsense, stay positive, and move forward with your life.

  2. The little failures you often feel self-conscious about. – When you set goals and take calculated risks in life, you eventually learn that there will be times when you succeed and there will be times when you fail, and both are equally important in the long run.

  3. How “perfect” everything could be, or should be. – Understanding the difference between reasonable striving and perfectionism is critical to letting go of fantasies and picking up your life.  Perfectionism not only causes you unnecessary stress and anxiety from the superficial need to always “get it right,” it actually prevents you from getting anything worthwhile done at all.

  4. Having complete confidence before taking the first step. – Confidence is that inner inertia that propels us to bypass our empty fears and self-doubts.  On the road of life, we come to realize that we rarely have confidence when we begin anew, but as we move forward and tap into our inner and outer resources, our confidence gradually builds.  A common mistake many young people make is wanting to feel confident before they start something, whether it’s a new job, a new relationship, living in a new city, etc.  But it doesn’t happen like that.  You have to step out of your comfort zone, and risk your pride, to earn the reward of finding your confidence.

  5. The intricacies of what’s in it for you. – Time teaches us that we keep nothing in this life until we first give it away.  This is true of knowledge, forgiveness, service, love, tolerance, acceptance, and so forth.  You have to give to receive.  Such a simple point, and yet it’s so easy to forget that the giving of ourselves, without a price tag, has to come FIRST!  It’s the giving that opens us up to grace.

  6. Being an online-only activist for good causes. – Online is fine, but sooner or later you realize that if you truly want to make a difference you have to walk the talk too.  So don’t just rant online for a better world.  Love your family.  Be a good neighbor.  Practice kindness.  Build bridges.  Embody what you preach.

  7. The pressures of making a big difference all at once. – When we’re young it seems like faster is better, but in time we witness the power of ‘slow and steady’ at work.  We come to learn that no act of love, kindness or generosity, no matter how small, is ever wasted.  The fact that you can plant a seed and it becomes a flower, share a bit of knowledge and it becomes another’s, smile at someone and receive a smile in return, is proof that YOU can make a big difference in life and business, even it can’t be done all at once.

  8. The temptation of quick fixes. – The older your eyes grow, the more clearly they can see through the smoke and mirrors of every quick fix.  Anything worth achieving takes dedicated daily effort.  Period!  Honestly, I used to believe that making wishes and saying prayers alone changed things, but now I know that wishes and prayers change us, and WE change things.  All details aside, when it comes to making a substantial change in your life – building a business, earning a degree, fostering a new relationship, starting a family, becoming more mindful, or any other personal journey that takes time and commitment – one thing you have to ask yourself is, “Am I willing to spend a little time every day like many people won’t, so I can spend the better part of my life like many people can’t?”  Think about that for a moment.  We ultimately become what we repeatedly do.  The acquisition of knowledge doesn’t mean you’re growing – growing happens when what you know changes how you live on a daily basis.  (Angel and I build daily, life-changing rituals with our students in the “Goals and Growth” module of Getting Back to Happy.)

  9. Having a calendar jam-packed with exciting, elaborate plans.– Don’t jam your life with plans.  Leave space.  Over time you will learn that many great things happen unplanned, and some big regrets happen by not reaching exactly what was planned.  So keep your life ordered and your schedule under-booked.  Create a foundation with a soft place to land, a wide margin of error, and room to think and breathe every step of the way.

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Author: daymotivation

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